grrrr

[sammielove]

sometimes long distance isnt the easiest for my boyfriend. but he constantly wants to give up. yet, he tells me he loves me? he's done this twice already, and each time it breaks my heart. i see him once a month, but it's not enough for him. he tells me he's sad or depressed, & i feel TERRIBLE because i can't do anything about it. does he not get that it's hard for me too, but i love him so i'm willing to work it out for him.

GRR IT MAKES ME MAD.

[AmyAnn]

Honestly, I went through that phase the exact same way he is but I waited two years to see him, it wasn't every month so he does have it a bit easier. It turned out that I was severely depressed so there is a high chance he is actually depressed. It causes your emotions to go all over the place with difficult matters. Just keep staying by him and he'll soon get over it. However, if it starts causing you emotional stress or you consider breaking up...maybe he needs a scare. That snapped me back.

[ashley]

It might be that it's hard for him to go from not seeing you, to seeing you and back again. Before my boyfriend deployed, I'd see him once or twice a month, which is more frequently than many people see their SOs, but it also meant constantly having to transition back and forth from being with him to being apart again (on top of that things were always being cancelled and changed around because of the Navy). That really go to me after a while because it was like a constant emotional rollercoaster. So that may be what your boyfriend is experiencing. But, he needs to remember you're going through the same thing too. I never got to the point that I was considering giving up on my relationship, but I would get really pessimistic and depressed about stuff sometimes. I just had to remind myself that my boyfriend was going through the exact same thing and that everything would be fine.

And like Amy said, he might also actually be depressed on top of just the stress. If he's showing legitimate signs of depression, he needs to get some help so he can deal with it. I dated a guy once who had severe depression, and if left unchecked it can really ruin a relationship.