Post by squeeker on Oct 7, 2012 14:07:22 GMT -5
I was with my boyfriend and came back and kept feeling like posting here but didn't know what to post. This is also on a page on our tumblr page. (heatherloveschris.tumblr.com/ourstory)
Part 1: The Beginning.
We met on AspieAffection.com, we both have Asperger’s Syndrome. He winked at me, I checked out his profile & winked back, and we started messaging from there, and then that led to facebook messaging, which led us to talking every day and learning more and more about each other.
When he first asked if I had skype, I said no because I hadn’t gotten it yet. But that night I downloaded it. But I didn’t want to say anything until he brought it up again because I didn’t want him to think I was weird for downloading it right away after he mentioned it. lol. And early on I wasn’t even sure if my laptop had a webcam because I never used it!
However one day we were talking on msn (because facebook chat was being dumb or something) and I accidentally clicked the webcam button but quickly put it off and felt stupid because then he might think I was lying to him about having a webcam.. truth was I didn’t know (plus I was a little nervous, haha). When we first webcammed, I was SO shy. I hardly said a word. Also, before getting on webcam I used to quickly run to the bathroom and brush my hair and put on my glasses (which I don’t usually wear around the house but I did in most of my pictures… so I thought I should wear them on webcam) and he would joke about seeing his reflection in my glasses..
We had a lot of good conversations, friendly conversations. November/December 2009 was not a good time because his finances were really tight and we couldn’t talk a lot because he kept running out of credit.
We started talking again and it was great, but we had a few times where we had a deep discussion and figured we’d just be friends. I know now that it was because it seemed like I wasn’t interested in more. Because apparently he thought I was pretty since he first saw my picture and I know he liked me early on. I liked him too but he is my first relationship (and wow did I get lucky!) and I was nervous to return the feelings, telling myself he was probably not being serious anyways.. and I didn’t want to lead him on so I waited to be sure. That led us to a period of time where we only talked via messages on facebook, no facebook chat or skyping. That started near the end of February and lasted until around May 2010, we started talking again, saying how we missed chatting with each other, and then we started skyping again, but we did voice only calls for a long time because it helped with my nerves.. and then eventually I was comfortable with video and voice and we tried a lot of different other webcam programs besides skype until finally finding ooVoo, which we now use most often.
We became official on September 1, 2010 when he said how he felt like changing his relationship status to in a relationship with.. ME and I said yeah, it was pretty much like we were in a relationship anyways… and when I realized he actually changed his status, I didn’t hesitate and changed mine as well. That was one of the happiest moments of my life.. I knew he was serious about liking me and about loving me and I knew I loved him too.
Oh and around that time too was when I booked my first flight to see him (I got my passport around July 2010 which was the first step and so exciting!!). Then November 11, 2010 came around and I was on my way to England!!
Part 2: After the Flight/Meeting Chris
After a bit, we landed in London, and I followed the people to the immigration people. It was kind of scary because the guy asked lots of questions and I was afraid that one wrong answer and I would not be allowed in, but he let me in, and I went to get my baggage.
My cell phone didn’t work, I thought it might just be that I didn’t know how to call/text Chris while in the UK… So, I tried even using a payphone, but I wasn’t sure how to call Chris while in the UK (oops!) but, then I found the taxi driver who had a paper board with my name and he lead me out to the taxi, he even took/rolled my suitcase for me, and then before we left, guess who called!! Chris!! So it was awesome, I didn’t have to be nervous the whole taxi ride that he wouldn’t be there. I even was able to talk to him for a bit. And the taxi driver let me text my mom to let her know I got to London on time.
It was a long journey… I ended up finding out bits about the taxi driver’s life like how he had a French Canadian girlfriend at a time and was the taxi driver for John Travolta for a time. And he asked about my life and my boyfriend and things. It was kind of long and awkward, but then eventually I started seeing the signs for Birmingham closer, and the driver called Chris to tell him when I’d be there when we got closer.
Then we got there, and we were early and the taxi driver called Chris and he wasn’t there yet (his train was actually late!) and so Chris told the taxi driver to tell me to wait at the café that’s right at the left of the entrance, and the taxi driver gave me his business card in case I had trouble. And then I thanked him and took my luggage and walked into the building and the café was there.
I wasn’t sure if I should order a beverage or something but I ended up not buying anything and just kept on the look out for Chris. I saw a couple people who I for a second thought might be him but weren’t… I was just really excited. And then, after a few minutes of waiting, I think I heard him say my name, or “Hi”, or “Hi Heather” or something, I can’t remember exactly, and I turned and saw him walking towards me and I just couldn’t believe it, it was so surreal, and he looked so amazing, and so more 3-D than on web cam… wow.
So I think I started also moving towards him, and said hi and he held his arms open and we hugged for so long, I remember hugging him so tightly and it was so amazing. And then we kissed and it was amazing.
Then he took my luggage and paid for my train ticket from Birmingham New St. Station to Wellington Station (he already had his ticket because he got a return ticket) and then we walked onto the platform, and waited… it was so amazing. I kept squealing/giggling and we kissed a bunch and it was so perfect.
Eventually the train pulled in and we got on, he put my luggage on a table/shelf thing, and then we sat down and held hands… oh we held hands from going to get the ticket to this point too.
We did a word search puzzle from my word search book I brought for the flight, and kissed and held hands. It was amazing.
And then a guy came by to examine our tickets, and then the train arrived at Wellington train station and we walked from there to Chris’ place and I guess that’s where I met his dad and Cookie. Cookie didn’t know what to think of me/kind of didn’t like me at first, but then with the help of Chris she warmed up to me.
We relaxed and cuddled a bit at first, and then after a bit we were going to go shopping… for food and other miscellaneous. It was an amazing time.
Part 3: Since then and to the future
I flew into Manchester (the flight started May 21, 2011 and arrived May 22) which was so much closer to his place than London Gatwick was, which is where I flew the first time, so the taxi fare was cheaper (I also had found a cheaper plane ticket this time, and also found the amazing site that is canadianaffair.ca!).
This visit was for a month, so was so much nicer, didn’t have to say goodbye quite as fast (but still too soon!) and it was just so amazing to be with him. I had to leave on the morning of June 17, 2011.
We have almost spent a year apart, and it will be almost a year since the last day we were together to the next day we will be together.
My flight was June 15, 2012 and I arrived in England June 16, 2012, got the prebooked taxi to his place in Wales and spent 3 1/2 months with him almost 24/7 (except the last two weeks he had to be at uni part of the week) and then flew back to Canada September 29, 2012 (my flight was moved from the 28th to 29th while I was there). It was so amazing to be there and spend so much time with him. We cooked and baked a lot of delicious foods together, and went for walks together, went to the shops together, we went berry picking and to garden nurseries.. a lot of more low key things because we didn't want to spend too much money plus a lot of the typical touristy things are city things and neither of us like being around too many people at a time. Also I got to see so many sheeps, and they are very cute.. hehe it was amazing. I'll try and post here more, I couldn't post many pictures yet because I have to have them uploaded somewhere else to post here but now I've done that a bit so I can post a few. I'll post one here and later I'll post some in the picture thread or visits thread or something.. I've posted a few on my tumblr too.
Part 1: The Beginning.
We met on AspieAffection.com, we both have Asperger’s Syndrome. He winked at me, I checked out his profile & winked back, and we started messaging from there, and then that led to facebook messaging, which led us to talking every day and learning more and more about each other.
When he first asked if I had skype, I said no because I hadn’t gotten it yet. But that night I downloaded it. But I didn’t want to say anything until he brought it up again because I didn’t want him to think I was weird for downloading it right away after he mentioned it. lol. And early on I wasn’t even sure if my laptop had a webcam because I never used it!
However one day we were talking on msn (because facebook chat was being dumb or something) and I accidentally clicked the webcam button but quickly put it off and felt stupid because then he might think I was lying to him about having a webcam.. truth was I didn’t know (plus I was a little nervous, haha). When we first webcammed, I was SO shy. I hardly said a word. Also, before getting on webcam I used to quickly run to the bathroom and brush my hair and put on my glasses (which I don’t usually wear around the house but I did in most of my pictures… so I thought I should wear them on webcam) and he would joke about seeing his reflection in my glasses..
We had a lot of good conversations, friendly conversations. November/December 2009 was not a good time because his finances were really tight and we couldn’t talk a lot because he kept running out of credit.
We started talking again and it was great, but we had a few times where we had a deep discussion and figured we’d just be friends. I know now that it was because it seemed like I wasn’t interested in more. Because apparently he thought I was pretty since he first saw my picture and I know he liked me early on. I liked him too but he is my first relationship (and wow did I get lucky!) and I was nervous to return the feelings, telling myself he was probably not being serious anyways.. and I didn’t want to lead him on so I waited to be sure. That led us to a period of time where we only talked via messages on facebook, no facebook chat or skyping. That started near the end of February and lasted until around May 2010, we started talking again, saying how we missed chatting with each other, and then we started skyping again, but we did voice only calls for a long time because it helped with my nerves.. and then eventually I was comfortable with video and voice and we tried a lot of different other webcam programs besides skype until finally finding ooVoo, which we now use most often.
We became official on September 1, 2010 when he said how he felt like changing his relationship status to in a relationship with.. ME and I said yeah, it was pretty much like we were in a relationship anyways… and when I realized he actually changed his status, I didn’t hesitate and changed mine as well. That was one of the happiest moments of my life.. I knew he was serious about liking me and about loving me and I knew I loved him too.
Oh and around that time too was when I booked my first flight to see him (I got my passport around July 2010 which was the first step and so exciting!!). Then November 11, 2010 came around and I was on my way to England!!
Part 2: After the Flight/Meeting Chris
After a bit, we landed in London, and I followed the people to the immigration people. It was kind of scary because the guy asked lots of questions and I was afraid that one wrong answer and I would not be allowed in, but he let me in, and I went to get my baggage.
My cell phone didn’t work, I thought it might just be that I didn’t know how to call/text Chris while in the UK… So, I tried even using a payphone, but I wasn’t sure how to call Chris while in the UK (oops!) but, then I found the taxi driver who had a paper board with my name and he lead me out to the taxi, he even took/rolled my suitcase for me, and then before we left, guess who called!! Chris!! So it was awesome, I didn’t have to be nervous the whole taxi ride that he wouldn’t be there. I even was able to talk to him for a bit. And the taxi driver let me text my mom to let her know I got to London on time.
It was a long journey… I ended up finding out bits about the taxi driver’s life like how he had a French Canadian girlfriend at a time and was the taxi driver for John Travolta for a time. And he asked about my life and my boyfriend and things. It was kind of long and awkward, but then eventually I started seeing the signs for Birmingham closer, and the driver called Chris to tell him when I’d be there when we got closer.
Then we got there, and we were early and the taxi driver called Chris and he wasn’t there yet (his train was actually late!) and so Chris told the taxi driver to tell me to wait at the café that’s right at the left of the entrance, and the taxi driver gave me his business card in case I had trouble. And then I thanked him and took my luggage and walked into the building and the café was there.
I wasn’t sure if I should order a beverage or something but I ended up not buying anything and just kept on the look out for Chris. I saw a couple people who I for a second thought might be him but weren’t… I was just really excited. And then, after a few minutes of waiting, I think I heard him say my name, or “Hi”, or “Hi Heather” or something, I can’t remember exactly, and I turned and saw him walking towards me and I just couldn’t believe it, it was so surreal, and he looked so amazing, and so more 3-D than on web cam… wow.
So I think I started also moving towards him, and said hi and he held his arms open and we hugged for so long, I remember hugging him so tightly and it was so amazing. And then we kissed and it was amazing.
Then he took my luggage and paid for my train ticket from Birmingham New St. Station to Wellington Station (he already had his ticket because he got a return ticket) and then we walked onto the platform, and waited… it was so amazing. I kept squealing/giggling and we kissed a bunch and it was so perfect.
Eventually the train pulled in and we got on, he put my luggage on a table/shelf thing, and then we sat down and held hands… oh we held hands from going to get the ticket to this point too.
We did a word search puzzle from my word search book I brought for the flight, and kissed and held hands. It was amazing.And then a guy came by to examine our tickets, and then the train arrived at Wellington train station and we walked from there to Chris’ place and I guess that’s where I met his dad and Cookie. Cookie didn’t know what to think of me/kind of didn’t like me at first, but then with the help of Chris she warmed up to me.
We relaxed and cuddled a bit at first, and then after a bit we were going to go shopping… for food and other miscellaneous. It was an amazing time.
Part 3: Since then and to the future
I flew into Manchester (the flight started May 21, 2011 and arrived May 22) which was so much closer to his place than London Gatwick was, which is where I flew the first time, so the taxi fare was cheaper (I also had found a cheaper plane ticket this time, and also found the amazing site that is canadianaffair.ca!).
This visit was for a month, so was so much nicer, didn’t have to say goodbye quite as fast (but still too soon!) and it was just so amazing to be with him. I had to leave on the morning of June 17, 2011.
We have almost spent a year apart, and it will be almost a year since the last day we were together to the next day we will be together.
My flight was June 15, 2012 and I arrived in England June 16, 2012, got the prebooked taxi to his place in Wales and spent 3 1/2 months with him almost 24/7 (except the last two weeks he had to be at uni part of the week) and then flew back to Canada September 29, 2012 (my flight was moved from the 28th to 29th while I was there). It was so amazing to be there and spend so much time with him. We cooked and baked a lot of delicious foods together, and went for walks together, went to the shops together, we went berry picking and to garden nurseries.. a lot of more low key things because we didn't want to spend too much money plus a lot of the typical touristy things are city things and neither of us like being around too many people at a time. Also I got to see so many sheeps, and they are very cute.. hehe it was amazing.
I'll try and post here more, I couldn't post many pictures yet because I have to have them uploaded somewhere else to post here but now I've done that a bit so I can post a few. I'll post one here and later I'll post some in the picture thread or visits thread or something.. I've posted a few on my tumblr too.